The Travelling Fairy DancerSigns of Attraction for a Holiday Romance
June 10th 2011 10:36
How is this travel related? Ahh, how indeed?
The holiday romance is whispered about over coffee at the office, bragged about at the pub and dreamt about by those embarking on a trip of a lifetime. So, how do we know when that ‘lingering gaze’ or ‘accidental touch’ means something…more?
The short answer is – we don’t. Not unless we’re fortunate enough to come across that rare, ultra confident person who puts themselves in the line of fire for rejection, saying, “to hell with the consequences”, in order to tell you they want you. (Bless you, ultra confident people of the world).
This is a conversation I’ve had many times, with males and females, with regard to travel romances – and the lack thereof due to self-inhibitions. So, from a non-psychiatrist, non-clinical point of view, here are some very reliable signs that someone is very, very into you. (Or not…).
Obvious Signs from Women
The Hair Flick – Yes, an extreme cliché, but apparently true! Most women I know cannot help but play with, twirl or bring attention to their hair when they are attracted to a man. It could, also, be a sign of nervousness, but there’s a reason for the nerves, right?
Eye Contact – Vital! A woman will not make extended eye contact with a man she is not interested in. In fact, this is absolutely crucial. If a woman’s eyes are flicking everywhere but on the man she is talking to – it means she wants to be elsewhere. (Note – this does not include looking down every so often, batting of eyelashes and nervously looking up from under the eyelashes to gain contact again – this is a form of outright seduction).
Personal Space – If a woman wants you, she will be within 15cm of your personal space. If not - especially if she’s taking gigantic steps backwards each time you approach – you either have very bad breath, or she is just not into you. Or both, most likely.
Jokes – Yes, women will laugh at very bad jokes if they are attracted to a man. Because, in the woman’s eyes, they’re not bad jokes, they’re an extension of the lively, enthusiastic personality of a man. Always a winner. Rolling of the eyes means the opposite – take note and stop telling jokes. Or think of better ones.
Touching – Many women can be ‘touchy feely’ types. Having said that, it’s rare that we as human beings want to touch anything we’re not attracted to. Generally – a good sign.
Obvious Signs from Men
I’m not a man, so this is second hand information from being on the receiving end of such behavior.
Men, with more knowledge than I, please feel free to comment…
Eye Contact – Again, vital! If a man is making intense eye contact with you, or is nervously glancing away whenever you catch him making intense eye contact with you – it is an obvious sign of attraction. It’s all about the visual, right?
Body Direction – When attracted to someone, most people will point their feet, upper body and hands in the direction of that someone. This is usually a subconscious gesture. Watch out for it. That, or males hooking their fingers into their belt buckles while splaying their legs…hmmm. Obvious much?
Auto Erotic Touching – Is he touching his cheek? Rubbing his chin? Playing with his watch? This is not all he’s thinking about playing with if he’s maintaining eye contact with you while doing so…
The Interest Factor – Just quietly, if a man is acutely interested in your life, hobbies, friends, family – and asks a billion questions – it means he’s interested in you.
It’s all about the Laugh – Men will joke with women, tease women and generally act like chimpanzees if they think they’re in with a chance - even, if they just like you as a friend. The thing to look out for is goofiness, and an all round extreme ability to embarrass themselves. This can mean they are trying too hard – and there’s a reason for that.
The Biggest Giveaway, Scientifically at Least – Pupil Dilation. Apparently, our pupils become bigger when in the company of something, or someone, we’re attracted to. Do make sure you take into account the lack of light in the room though…
In conclusion, coming straight out and asking someone is easier – especially when traveling – yes? Just go for it, that’s the beauty of being able to return to your own country – you’ll never (hopefully) have to see them again – that is, if you have to face the dreaded ‘rejection’ – and it might just be worth it.
Happy Travel Romancing x
The holiday romance is whispered about over coffee at the office, bragged about at the pub and dreamt about by those embarking on a trip of a lifetime. So, how do we know when that ‘lingering gaze’ or ‘accidental touch’ means something…more?
The short answer is – we don’t. Not unless we’re fortunate enough to come across that rare, ultra confident person who puts themselves in the line of fire for rejection, saying, “to hell with the consequences”, in order to tell you they want you. (Bless you, ultra confident people of the world).
This is a conversation I’ve had many times, with males and females, with regard to travel romances – and the lack thereof due to self-inhibitions. So, from a non-psychiatrist, non-clinical point of view, here are some very reliable signs that someone is very, very into you. (Or not…).
Obvious Signs from Women
The Hair Flick – Yes, an extreme cliché, but apparently true! Most women I know cannot help but play with, twirl or bring attention to their hair when they are attracted to a man. It could, also, be a sign of nervousness, but there’s a reason for the nerves, right?
Eye Contact – Vital! A woman will not make extended eye contact with a man she is not interested in. In fact, this is absolutely crucial. If a woman’s eyes are flicking everywhere but on the man she is talking to – it means she wants to be elsewhere. (Note – this does not include looking down every so often, batting of eyelashes and nervously looking up from under the eyelashes to gain contact again – this is a form of outright seduction).
Personal Space – If a woman wants you, she will be within 15cm of your personal space. If not - especially if she’s taking gigantic steps backwards each time you approach – you either have very bad breath, or she is just not into you. Or both, most likely.
Jokes – Yes, women will laugh at very bad jokes if they are attracted to a man. Because, in the woman’s eyes, they’re not bad jokes, they’re an extension of the lively, enthusiastic personality of a man. Always a winner. Rolling of the eyes means the opposite – take note and stop telling jokes. Or think of better ones.
Touching – Many women can be ‘touchy feely’ types. Having said that, it’s rare that we as human beings want to touch anything we’re not attracted to. Generally – a good sign.
Obvious Signs from Men
I’m not a man, so this is second hand information from being on the receiving end of such behavior.
Men, with more knowledge than I, please feel free to comment…
Eye Contact – Again, vital! If a man is making intense eye contact with you, or is nervously glancing away whenever you catch him making intense eye contact with you – it is an obvious sign of attraction. It’s all about the visual, right?
Body Direction – When attracted to someone, most people will point their feet, upper body and hands in the direction of that someone. This is usually a subconscious gesture. Watch out for it. That, or males hooking their fingers into their belt buckles while splaying their legs…hmmm. Obvious much?
Auto Erotic Touching – Is he touching his cheek? Rubbing his chin? Playing with his watch? This is not all he’s thinking about playing with if he’s maintaining eye contact with you while doing so…
The Interest Factor – Just quietly, if a man is acutely interested in your life, hobbies, friends, family – and asks a billion questions – it means he’s interested in you.
It’s all about the Laugh – Men will joke with women, tease women and generally act like chimpanzees if they think they’re in with a chance - even, if they just like you as a friend. The thing to look out for is goofiness, and an all round extreme ability to embarrass themselves. This can mean they are trying too hard – and there’s a reason for that.
The Biggest Giveaway, Scientifically at Least – Pupil Dilation. Apparently, our pupils become bigger when in the company of something, or someone, we’re attracted to. Do make sure you take into account the lack of light in the room though…
In conclusion, coming straight out and asking someone is easier – especially when traveling – yes? Just go for it, that’s the beauty of being able to return to your own country – you’ll never (hopefully) have to see them again – that is, if you have to face the dreaded ‘rejection’ – and it might just be worth it.
Happy Travel Romancing x
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Love it. Brilliantly entertaining post.